Like Ken and Barbie, Michelle and Barack, peas and carrots — some couples are just meant to be. In the list of perfect pairings, we all thought Rhea Perlman and Danny DeVito were the real deal. Their relationship stretched through most of their lives, then suddenly, the news broke that they’d called it quits.
Was it infidelity? Had the romance gone stale? Was there any hope that they’d mend it? No one seemed sure. Though, after two years of sitting on the separation, Rhea finally got candid about why she won’t ever sign the papers to end her marriage to Danny DeVito.
Rhea Perlman and Danny DeVito hit it off the moment they met. It was 1971; Rhea sat in the audience of her friend’s play. Instead of focusing on her pal, her attention stuck with the stocky guy on stage, a comedic natural.
After the show, Rhea was introduced to Danny and both could sense their wickedly funny personalities had found an instant match. Throwing caution to the wind, they moved in together just two weeks later.
Best friends didn’t begin to describe it. For 12 years, Rhea and Danny built their relationship on mutual respect and genuine fun. It wasn’t until 1982 that they’d officially swapped vows becoming husband and wife.
Once the rings were on their fingers, Rhea and Danny decided to expand their family. They had two daughters, Lucy and Grace, and a son Jacob. Adding kids to the mix only strengthened their bond; the DeVitos were happy.
The world got a taste of what it must be like as a fly on the Devito Perlman’s wall during the couple’s shared moments onscreen. In his breakout sitcom role on Taxi, husband and wife played opposite one another as love interests.
When he found himself in the director’s chair for the fantastical children’s book adaptation Matilda, Danny made the perfect casting decision placing himself and Rhea as the wryly dysfunctional Wormwoods. Despite their character’s rottenness, they were easy to like.
As Rhea racked up Emmys for performance as the tough sarcastic waitress Carla on the sitcom Cheers, she had a loving supportive partner who was just as busy compiling an eclectic variety of film projects and dabbling behind the camera.
Danny showed versatility jumping into films after his sitcom success. Whether he was hamming it up in comedies like Twins, and Throw Mama From The Train, or taking on the role of the hairbrained bad guys in blockbuster vehicles, he climbed comfortably into household name status.
On the shortlist of healthy happy couples in show business, Rhea and Danny’s names were always at the top of the list. Their relationship proved that it’s possible to make something last with a grin on your face in such a shallow, tumultuous industry.
So it stunned everybody when the couple announced their separation in October of 2012. Neither Danny or Rhea publicly acknowledged the split, though sources close to the family pointed to the fact that their kids were grown and out of the house.
Tempers that flared between the famous parents were brushed under the rug for the sake of their children — not anymore. Still, five months apart to cool off and reexamine their thoughts was enough to make Danny and Rhea rekindle their romance in March of 2013.
What could come between them after 40 years together? Rumors surfaced that Rhea finally had enough of Danny’s wandering eye. The actor might not be regarded for leading man good looks, but his charisma and charm are apparently just as effective with the ladies.
It looked like the prospect of splitting up for good triggered a new chapter for Rhea and Danny. Their careers were still thriving, with Danny winning a brand new legion of fans from his role as Frank on It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia.
Their rekindling was amicably snuffed out in March of 2017 when Danny and Rhea agreed that it was better for both of them to walk away. They filed for a legal separation and for the first time since the early seventies and divided their house keys.
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For the first time in their children’s lives, Mom and Dad were living separately. Luckily, Rhea and Danny were on the exact same page when it came to their family dynamic. No one was angry or harboring resentments.
After decades of answering the question “what’s the secret for a lasting marriage in Hollywood?” Rhea and Danny could officially give an honest and effective answer. For them, living separately made a heck of a difference.
Separation is a tragic blow for most people’s marriage, however, Danny and Rhea aren’t your average couple. During an appearance on Andy Cohen’s show Watch What Happens Live, Rhea gave an answer to why she and Danny haven’t yet signed divorce papers.
Now that they don’t share the same home, Rhea feels like her relationship with her sort-of ex has exponentially improved. The final step of ending the marriage isn’t necessary, “We agree on things enough, so why [ruin] that with the yucky things that come with a divorce?”
“It’s much better because all of the tense stuff is gone, it’s not in your face, I’m not in his, he’s not in mine,” Rhea continued. She explained that since taking the plunge to separate, their communication is better than it was during their last five years of marriage.
Danny offered the same sentiments about Rhea during a red carpet interview. Even without the added pressure of pleasing a spouse, he said he and Rhea remain extremely close friends. The busy actors have a mutual understanding, which helps in a showbiz marriage.
Fellow marriage vets Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston understand how fame and fortune can complicate a relationship. Their union has weathered even the toughest of Hollywood storms, though their 42-year journey together had a pretty unusual beginning.
Born in Los Angeles California, on December 4, 1949, Jeff Bridges seemed destined to be a star. His father, Lloyd Bridges, was already a well-respected actor, and in 1951, Jeff made his feature film debut in The Company She Keeps at the age of two.
Jeff went on to appear in many notable projects in the following years, though his big break came in 1971 when he landed the role of Duane Jackson in The Last Picture Show. At just 22, he was nominated for the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor.
But as he’d soon find out, his role in 1975’s Rancho Deluxe was his most significant yet. His performance didn’t earn him any award nominations, but it was during this time that he came across something even better: the love of his life.
While filming scenes at a Montana Roadhouse, Jeff couldn’t help but notice a young woman waiting on a few of the tables nearby. “I knew I was madly in love with [her] the minute I saw her,” he once recalled to Conan O’Brien.
That waitress, of course, was Susan Geston, a native of Fargo, North Dakota, working to pay her way through college. But even with a Hollywood pedigree like his, Jeff was still too shy to talk to her at first.
In fact, Jeff actually hid behind a magazine during their first encounter, stealing quick glances at her as she waited on customers. Finally, Jeff managed to muster up the courage to ask her out — and, believe it or not, she said no!
This was surely a huge blow to Jeff’s ego, and with the film wrapping in the coming days, a life with Susan seemed no more than wishful thinking. Well, Jeff’s wish wound up coming true, as after Susan showed up at the Rancho Deluxe wrap party, the two got to talking and hit it off.
Their relationship blossomed, and after a quick return trip to LA, Jeff made his way back to Montana for Susan. After loading up a rented RV, the couple then headed for the west coast, choosing to settle down at Jeff’s Malibu home.
Several years passed, and Jeff was content to remain in a committed relationship — Susan, however, wanted more. But when faced with the prospect of marriage and starting a family, Jeff wasn’t exactly thrilled with the idea.
“I don’t know how it is for women or for other guys, but when I was young and in my 20s, I had a fear of marriage,” he told Reader’s Digest. “I thought it was a giant step toward death. So I did everything in my power to resist it — the idea was frightening to me, man.”
With the couple at odds over their future, Susan opted to move out, though the couple continued to date one another exclusively. But when Susan got a job offer that threatened to take her back to Montana, Jeff came to an immediate realization: she was, and always would be, the “one.”
“I said, ‘Oh God, I can’t let this woman go,'” Jeff recounted in a 2015 interview with OWN. “I had this vision of an old guy thinking there was this girl from Montana, man, why didn’t I marry her.”
And so, not wanting to become the man from his vision, Jeff did just that. On June 5, 1977 – just five days after he’d proposed – Jeff and Susan tied the knot.
As expected, the transition to married life wasn’t an easy one for Jeff, and the early days of his marriage with Susan weren’t all sunshine and rainbows. Gradually, however, Jeff began to realize that married life wasn’t the “death trap” he once envisioned it to be.
“What you don’t know until you get married is that you think all the other doors close, which is true, but this doorway you open [with marriage] is a hallway lined with all these other brilliant doors — kids, deeper intimacy, adventures, and everything else,” Jeff explained.
This newfound perspective also helped Jeff and Susan deal with disagreements, of which there were many in the early years of their marriage. According to Jeff, the couple learned to hear each other out, sitting face to face and letting the other speak uninterrupted so their feelings could be acknowledged.
It seems this method has worked wonders for their relationship, as 42 years later, Jeff and Susan have built an incredible life together. The couple has three adult daughters – Isabelle, Jessica, and Haley – and one grandchild to go with them.
But perhaps the most surprising success that the actor attributes to his wife is his legendary film career. While it was the gruff, long-haired Jeff that captivated us on screen, it was Susan’s work behind the scenes that really made it all happen.
“In the  years we’ve been married, we’ve done 50 movies together,” Jeff wrote. “I say ‘we’ because Sue deserves a credit too. I’m the guy who makes the buck, but she’s the one who takes care of everything else. I really am more in love with her than ever.”
Surprisingly, Jeff and Susan aren’t the only couple to have built a lasting love in the glare of the spotlight. For over 30 years, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have been the poster couple for Hollywood relationships built to last. But the early days of Kurt and Goldie weren’t exactly your typical start to a decades-old love story, either.
They met while shooting 1968’s The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band, when Goldie was 23 and Kurt was just 17. It wouldn’t be love at first sight for the young actors, however, as the two shared no screen time and soon went their separate ways.
Yet Goldie’s work on the Disney musical wasn’t all for naught, as her performance soon attracted the attention of major Hollywood producers. Making the switch from go-go dancer to full-time actress, Goldie’s first major film role in Cactus Flower earned her the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress in 1969.
Meanwhile, Kurt put his silver-screen dreams on hold to pursue his lifelong passion: baseball. The young switch-hitter built a solid career for himself with the Class AA El Paso Sun Kings, though an injury in 1973 forced him into retirement.
It was then back to the acting game for Kurt, who found success in television this time around. Not only did his leading role in the 1979 biopic Elvis earn him an Emmy nomination, but it also led him to meet his first wife, Season Hubley.
By this time, Goldie had already been divorced once, though she soon found love again with musician Bill Hudson. The two wed in 1976, welcoming a son, Oliver, later that year and a daughter, Kate, in 1979.
But it seemed these marriages weren’t built to last, as Goldie and Hudson divorced in ’82; Kurt and Hubley followed suit a year later. Both newly single, it wouldn’t be long before the two stars found their way back to one another for good.
Sixteen years after their first film together, Goldie and Kurt were formally introduced after being cast in 1984’s Swing Shift. Kurt was smitten from the start, and Goldie, who was just as charmed, decided she’d like to get to know her co-star a little better off set.
The two had their first date at The Playboy Club, swing-dancing the night away as a kind of “field research” for their upcoming film. It was the beginning of something special for the two stars, yet their undeniable chemistry wasn’t the only selling point of the relationship.
As Oliver and Kate began spending more time with Kurt, it was clear he was ready to be the father that Bill Hudson never was. “What really got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them,” said Goldie. “He was amazing with them.”
But not only did Kurt become a father to Goldie’s children, he also became one for real when the couple welcomed Wyatt Russell in 1986. With Kurt’s son from his first marriage, Boston, in the mix, the blended Russell-Hawn family was making headlines everywhere.
With all eyes on Hollywood’s newest power couple, it was only a matter of time before they were paired up once again on the big screen, this time for 1987’s Overboard. The rom-com was a box-office success, proving that Kurt and Goldie were a match made in heaven both on screen and off… or were they?
By the late ’90s, rumors had begun to swirl that all was not well with the happy couple. Both Kurt and Goldie had been spotted in the company of others, and with no rings on their fingers, people just had to know: had they split, or had this been an open relationship all along?
The answer, it seemed, was neither, though Goldie never shied away from discussing the temptations that made her relationship with Kurt rocky at times: “I’m sure I’ve been party to it, and Kurt’s been – we’re all normal this way…There is an elasticity to the relationship. Otherwise it’s going to break, just like a rubber band.”
Both Goldie and Kurt attributed the longevity of their relationship to the fact that they’ve never gotten married. “Basically, once you’ve done it once, once you’ve done it twice, you realize that marriage, or the act of marrying has nothing to do with success,” Goldie said.
This belief, it seems, was also one shared by their children, who have spoken out often in support of their parents’ relationship. In fact, the couple once approached their kids to ask if they should get married, to which the entire family replied with a resounding “no.”
Still, that didn’t stop Kurt and Goldie from making their union “official” by having a non-wedding ceremony. And if you ever catch a glance at Goldie’s ring finger, you’ll spot a band of dazzling diamonds, no doubt given to her by her lifelong love.
For Kurt and Goldie, however, marriage and children never defined them. In Goldie’s words, “being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different, not having to agree on everything, learning how to deal with not agreeing,” is what makes their relationship so special.
Married or not, Kurt and Goldie will always be together — or at least, on the Hollywood Walk of Fame they will be. The two were given side-by-side stars in a joint ceremony, though it was what Kurt said to Goldie on that day that truly spoke to the depth of their relationship.
“To you, I owe my wonderful life,” Kurt said to her as the teary-eyed actress looked on. “Simply put, Goldie, I cherish you, and all the stars in the sky or on the boulevard can’t hold a candle to that.”